Updated: Jul 14
I love self-help books! I am so passionate about self-discovery because I grew up a fat kid who was constantly being told I would never make it in this world as a performer. I was too fat, ugly and not interesting enough. As a child, those words created the foundation of my self-esteem. I spent my teens and twenties thinking that if I was attractive enough or funny enough I could get people to like me. Well, that turned out to be true but at the price of constantly people pleasing everyone that I knew. Does this sound like you... I see you.
Well, by the time I was in my thirties I was like fuck that noise (in my head)... I can do anything I want. I was just too afraid to make it happen because I let all the fear in my brain make choices in my life. I let fear stop me from trusting myself. After a string of unhealthy relationships and friendships, I decided to examine who I am and what I want. I started taking classes that would help me obtain my goals. I have committed my life to grow and evolve into the women my inner child would be proud of. Here are the top 5 self help books that have changed my life!
The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho is a magical story of Santiago, an Andalusian shepherd boy who yearns to travel in search
of a worldly treasure as extravagant as any ever found.
The story of the treasures Santiago finds along the way teaches us, as only a few stories can, about the essential wisdom of listening to our hearts, learning to read the omens strewn along life's path, and, above all, following our dreams. This is a novel but was the first book I ever ready that helped me in my life. Hence, self help book. The year was 2008 and I was unhappy in my life and this book helped me put it all in perspective. The next year I quit my secure job as a retail recruiter and manager to devote all my efforts to acting. I picked up a job waiting tables and began to go on auditions and booked more work in 2 years than I had the previous 8 years before combined.
The Secret by Rhonda Byrne changed the scape for mainstream self help books. Well, atleast it did to me. The idea that you could ask for what you want and it would come to you seemed like cheating at life. The belief of the law of attraction, which claims that thoughts can change a person's life directly. This one changed my life when I read it in 2010! This is when I first started writing down gratitudes which help me bring more joys my way but also keep me accountable for expressing joy for the blessings in my life.
The Artists Way
The Artist's Way: A Spiritual Path To Higher Creativity by Julia Cameron is there to help people with artistic creative recovery, which teaches techniques and exercises to assist people in gaining self-confidence in harnessing their creative talents and skills. This book is sooooo hard to complete. I have been doing it for 3 years. Someday I will finish it. Start your 3 year journey today!!!
You are a Badass
You are a Badass is the fucking best!!! This is my jam! I listen to it on audible because I love the author Jen Sincero so much! She cuts through the crap with a meat cleaver in You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life. I put her on when I am having a bad day.
Inner bonding is the process of connecting our adult thoughts with our instinctual, gut feelings -- the feelings of the "inner child" -- so that we can minimize painful conflict within ourselves. ...
This one was a referral from my friend Alanis Morissette (and by friend I mean she has been with me the past 25 years with her music so I call her my friend) The book by Erika Chopich and Margaret Paul show how Inner bonding is the process of connecting our adult thoughts with our instinctual, gut feelings -- the feelings of the "inner child" -- so that we can minimize painful conflict within ourselves.... This is also on Audible and I highly recommend getting it because it was recorded as a lecture so you feel like you are with Margaret and she is there to help you and your inner child develop wholeness.